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enujaI joined LiveJournal quite late, and didn’t stop posting there until I found out about the sale to Russian owners, and subsequent coverage by Russian laws. I’ve still got a bunch of my book reviews and other writing up on LiveJournal, with the same username I’m using here.
I’ve finally made an account here, mostly because I want to publicly review books again, but also because I want to talk about my late ex spouse, Charles.
Back when I posted to my LiveJournal account, I came up with pseudonyms for everyone I talked about. For Charles, who was my spouse for the time I was most active on LiveJournal, I used the pseudonym “Wobbegong”. A wobbegong is also known as a carpet shark, a group of twelve species of Pacific Ocean bottom dwelling sharks, all of which I consider to be very cute, but which some people think are ugly.
I also invented a neopronoun for Wobbegong: ey/eir, because I didn’t think that Wobbegong fit well into the gender binary. Wobbegong was always happy to be addressed by any pronouns at all, and was very accustomed to, and comfortable with, he/him pronouns. I always thought Charles was an egg (a trans woman who is not yet aware of her gender), but, because he died of cancer at the age of 51, even if I was correct, he will never come out. We talked about this quite a lot over the years, and also shortly before he died, and he felt quite comfortable with being a cis man, or, rather, gender wasn’t very important to him and he definitely didn’t identify as either a trans woman or a non-binary person. I now use he/him pronouns for him, because those were the pronouns everyone else used for him, and pronouns with which he was very comfortable.
I’ve finally made an account here, mostly because I want to publicly review books again, but also because I want to talk about my late ex spouse, Charles.
Back when I posted to my LiveJournal account, I came up with pseudonyms for everyone I talked about. For Charles, who was my spouse for the time I was most active on LiveJournal, I used the pseudonym “Wobbegong”. A wobbegong is also known as a carpet shark, a group of twelve species of Pacific Ocean bottom dwelling sharks, all of which I consider to be very cute, but which some people think are ugly.
I also invented a neopronoun for Wobbegong: ey/eir, because I didn’t think that Wobbegong fit well into the gender binary. Wobbegong was always happy to be addressed by any pronouns at all, and was very accustomed to, and comfortable with, he/him pronouns. I always thought Charles was an egg (a trans woman who is not yet aware of her gender), but, because he died of cancer at the age of 51, even if I was correct, he will never come out. We talked about this quite a lot over the years, and also shortly before he died, and he felt quite comfortable with being a cis man, or, rather, gender wasn’t very important to him and he definitely didn’t identify as either a trans woman or a non-binary person. I now use he/him pronouns for him, because those were the pronouns everyone else used for him, and pronouns with which he was very comfortable.
