Kindness, New College, and the Pope
Apr. 22nd, 2025 03:42 pmBeing kind to others is radically important to me. It makes my life better, and I am quite certain that, the more everyone is kind to each other, the better our world will be. That doesn't mean I'm in favor of letting people walk all over me, or of not pushing back against deeply evil policies and actions. And I try not to police other people's anger and activist choices.
I'm a member of a FaceBook group of almost 3K alums from New College of Florida (which is a lot, because New College has never had more than 700 students at a time, and often had closer to 400). Since the conservative activist takeover of the governing board, the presidency, and, as far as they can manage it, the curriculum*, this Facebook group has been considerably more active, and there's a lot of anger and angst. Very reasonably. I'm angry, too.
But recently, someone posted news of a coach leaving, and most people, including the original poster of the news, were mean about it. One friend of mine pushed back on this unkindness, and was absolutely overwhelmed by an avalanche of meanness directly at him.
A little bit of background: while, I was there, New College had sports only for fun: no organized intercollegiate sports of any kind. A friend of mine taught some swimming lessons, a fencer moved into the neighborhood and tried to teach some fencing classes, we had a long term Aikido club, a bunch of people played ultimate, there was a lot of capoeira, and we had an active sail club, complete with boats.
When governor DeSantis replaced the entire governing board with conservative activists, they hired a politician and conservative flunky, Richard Corcoran, to be the president of New College. Corcoran went about trying to bring in conservative students by creating sports programs. He hired a bunch of Christian coaches, and enrolled a lot of athletes, without telling them that New College didn't have any sports fields, or a sports medicine concentration, or any academics who knew anything about sports at all.
By the time I was a student, New College's official mascot was the empty set. The history behind that was that people had written [ ] where the macrost was supposed to be, because they hadn't come up with one yet. But, over the years, the students decided they liked having the empty set as a mascot. I certainly thought it was charming. Corcoran was not a fan of the empty set as an actual mascot for actual sports teams, so New College is now the Mighty Banyans. Or is it the Fighting Banyans?
Anyway, there was a news article about one of the New College sports coaches getting a job at a Christian high school as the athletic director. An alum posted the article with the words "And the rats begin leaving...."
I thought that was insensitive and rude, but it wasn't hugely important to me. However, a fellow alum, who I went to New College with, was fairly upset by the rudeness, and replied. There was quite a lot of discussion, and the vast majority of it was people being mean to my friend for somehow being a Christian who always thinks he's being persecuted, and other really wild speculation. My friend was just asking people to be nice, and to use evidence of wrongdoing before saying that people are doing wrong. All of that has now been deleted, which is fine, actually, because for the most part people weren't addressing real issues, they were just being mean.
Also this week, Pope Francis died. I do not care very much about Christianity in general or Catholicism in particular, but of course there's been a lot of reporting on Pope Francis's life and papacy. Multiple commentators seem to agree that Francis was all about meeting the human in front of you as they are. He came from a pastoral instead of clerical perspective: he wasn't an academic or a leader, first, he was a pastor helping humans, with compassion and kindness.
All that stuff a couple of years ago about giving gay Catholics private blessings inside your office, while continuing to disallow official gay blessings or ceremonies was very consistent with Francis's perspective. He wasn't making large changes to the church's policy or position, but he thought the most important thing in Catholicism was treating every human as divinely created.
When the subject of forgiveness comes up, my position is always that you don't have to forgive anyone for anything they did to you, but all humans, even the most evil, deserve to be treated kindly when at all possible. I saw a video from a hospice nurse, who was working with dying people on compassionate release from prison. The people to whom they did bad things do not have to forgive them, but having a compassionate nurse there at the end of their life is important and good.
So, yes, I think kindness is extremely important. I will try not to police your anger or your activism or your opinions, but I do think that the way to a better future is radical care for each other.
*New College didn't even have a curriculum when I went there: it was very important to a lot of fellow students that they didn't have to waste any time with meaningless, irrelevant core curriculum classes. In order to get a degree you had to convince professors in your field that you'd taken the right classes, and were sufficiently well-rounded. Different concentrations did have prerequisites and core requirements, but nobody had to take a language to get a math degree, for example. When I was there, the central academic idea and motto was something along the lines of "In the final analysis, the student is responsible for their own education".
I'm a member of a FaceBook group of almost 3K alums from New College of Florida (which is a lot, because New College has never had more than 700 students at a time, and often had closer to 400). Since the conservative activist takeover of the governing board, the presidency, and, as far as they can manage it, the curriculum*, this Facebook group has been considerably more active, and there's a lot of anger and angst. Very reasonably. I'm angry, too.
But recently, someone posted news of a coach leaving, and most people, including the original poster of the news, were mean about it. One friend of mine pushed back on this unkindness, and was absolutely overwhelmed by an avalanche of meanness directly at him.
A little bit of background: while, I was there, New College had sports only for fun: no organized intercollegiate sports of any kind. A friend of mine taught some swimming lessons, a fencer moved into the neighborhood and tried to teach some fencing classes, we had a long term Aikido club, a bunch of people played ultimate, there was a lot of capoeira, and we had an active sail club, complete with boats.
When governor DeSantis replaced the entire governing board with conservative activists, they hired a politician and conservative flunky, Richard Corcoran, to be the president of New College. Corcoran went about trying to bring in conservative students by creating sports programs. He hired a bunch of Christian coaches, and enrolled a lot of athletes, without telling them that New College didn't have any sports fields, or a sports medicine concentration, or any academics who knew anything about sports at all.
By the time I was a student, New College's official mascot was the empty set. The history behind that was that people had written [ ] where the macrost was supposed to be, because they hadn't come up with one yet. But, over the years, the students decided they liked having the empty set as a mascot. I certainly thought it was charming. Corcoran was not a fan of the empty set as an actual mascot for actual sports teams, so New College is now the Mighty Banyans. Or is it the Fighting Banyans?
Anyway, there was a news article about one of the New College sports coaches getting a job at a Christian high school as the athletic director. An alum posted the article with the words "And the rats begin leaving...."
I thought that was insensitive and rude, but it wasn't hugely important to me. However, a fellow alum, who I went to New College with, was fairly upset by the rudeness, and replied. There was quite a lot of discussion, and the vast majority of it was people being mean to my friend for somehow being a Christian who always thinks he's being persecuted, and other really wild speculation. My friend was just asking people to be nice, and to use evidence of wrongdoing before saying that people are doing wrong. All of that has now been deleted, which is fine, actually, because for the most part people weren't addressing real issues, they were just being mean.
Also this week, Pope Francis died. I do not care very much about Christianity in general or Catholicism in particular, but of course there's been a lot of reporting on Pope Francis's life and papacy. Multiple commentators seem to agree that Francis was all about meeting the human in front of you as they are. He came from a pastoral instead of clerical perspective: he wasn't an academic or a leader, first, he was a pastor helping humans, with compassion and kindness.
All that stuff a couple of years ago about giving gay Catholics private blessings inside your office, while continuing to disallow official gay blessings or ceremonies was very consistent with Francis's perspective. He wasn't making large changes to the church's policy or position, but he thought the most important thing in Catholicism was treating every human as divinely created.
When the subject of forgiveness comes up, my position is always that you don't have to forgive anyone for anything they did to you, but all humans, even the most evil, deserve to be treated kindly when at all possible. I saw a video from a hospice nurse, who was working with dying people on compassionate release from prison. The people to whom they did bad things do not have to forgive them, but having a compassionate nurse there at the end of their life is important and good.
So, yes, I think kindness is extremely important. I will try not to police your anger or your activism or your opinions, but I do think that the way to a better future is radical care for each other.
*New College didn't even have a curriculum when I went there: it was very important to a lot of fellow students that they didn't have to waste any time with meaningless, irrelevant core curriculum classes. In order to get a degree you had to convince professors in your field that you'd taken the right classes, and were sufficiently well-rounded. Different concentrations did have prerequisites and core requirements, but nobody had to take a language to get a math degree, for example. When I was there, the central academic idea and motto was something along the lines of "In the final analysis, the student is responsible for their own education".